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Do you mean people who are not married and/or donāt have penises?
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Iām not sure that someone barely into their 30s really gets to be an āhonorary spinsterā, regardless of their living arrangements.
Sincerely, someone looking fondly back at his 30s. And early 40s.
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I think you meanā¦
āDo you mean people who are not married and donāt have penises?ā
And being single for 3 years is entirely different than being single for 10 years. Being single for 3 years is ābetween relationshipsā, and those people have no idea what its like to be single.
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And being single for 3 years is entirely different than being single for 10 years. Being single for 3 years is ābetween relationshipsā, and those people have no idea what its like to be single.
Also, when those three years have (by the implications of the article) included quite a lot of fucking in less-than-serious relationships, Iām not sure you can even call that period āsingleā.
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āWhether itās smug married women talking down to Bridget Jones and Carrie Bradshaw, or the control-freak single woman becoming a better person after finding true love in a rom-com, countless movies and TV shows have been built on the presumed divide between āsingleā and ātakenāāa label Iāve always found loathsome.ā
Or smug single ladies telling non-single ladies all about how much theyāre being fooled into conformity and blah blah blah watch any movie on Lifetime channel something something all husbands/boyfriends are horribad etcetera etcetera sheās finally liberated at the end of the movie and free and a whole person again once sheās gotten rid of him.
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Iām going to go out on a limb here and posit that there are plenty of penisād married folksā¦at least in the states that allow itā¦who read Cosmo haha
Arenāt there better ways to shoot for women readers than abandoning politics and taking pieces that navel gaze the semantics of Beyonce songs?
Um, there is zero mention of Beyonce in this piece. Iād also hardly characterize this issue as abandoning politicsā¦
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Um, there is zero mention of Beyonce in this piece. Iād also hardly characterize this issue as abandoning politicsā¦
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Read your own headlines, Nona.
This site has absolutely abandoned politics for silly navel gazing. The only place thereās any discussion of issues like āwho is right on whether TPA is secret or notā is in the comments because none of the writers are capable or willing to breaking down whoās telling the truth.
Where have you gone, Brian Beutler, our nation turns its lonely eyes to you
Beyonce does not own the term āsingle ladyā!
Well, being smug on either side of the equation is rude but there definitely is something about becoming a whole person again once sheās (or heās) has gotten rid of him (or her), especially if the relationship turned out to be a bad one. It is liberating.
Interesting article. I think the implication of āsinglenessā compared to those in a committed relationship is simliar to those adults in a committed relationship compared to parents. Each is a step away from your ability to make life decisions and the scope of people impacted by those decisions. I have a number of friends, in committed relationships, without children and their time is their own to dedicate or not, based on their interestsā¦ sometimes I think, "wow, their personal decision calculus doesnāt have to take into consideration the preferences/interests/schedules/lives of anyone but themselves, like the committed couple observes much about the single personā¦ just one step further away.
In families, you have the same dynamic Ms. Friedman mentions; one of the two parents who always has time to pursue their own non-family interests, while their spouse seems happy to fill the gap with the kids. And yes, I have numerous examples when this person is either the dad or the momā¦ the gender switch plays out in an indistinguishable way within their relationship.
The real question is, ādoes it work for you?ā If it does, then go with itā¦ if not, then figure out something else.
Whatever you think of this article it seems like demonstrable nonsense to claim TPM has abandoned politics seems probably 90% of the articles we publish are about politics in the most formal sense and the rest almost all touch directly on political issues.
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āTo take negative perceptions so seriously that you want to abandon an identity altogether is an appealing short-term strategy, but in the long run it serves to compound the original stereotypes, not defy them.ā
No shit.
āI was proud to call myself single, and now Iām comfortable enough to use the past tense.ā
You go girl!
And step outside your head once in a while. It appears awfully crowded in there.
EDIT: Iām a dude and donāt mean to be rude but Iām still amazed, after 40 years of marriage, how women have to process. everything. Or so it seems.
Beyonce is married, so I guess you CAN be a married single lady
The desire to transcend social categories like gender, sexual orientation, and relationship status is just that: desire.
I am a transgender person, male-to-female spectrum. I was formally diagnosed with gender dysphoria in January and have been on hormone replacement therapy for nine weeks now. I donāt speak for all transgender people, but I found the authorās statement above to be insensitive at best, and borderline offensive.
Not all transgender people need to transition, but in my case, aligning my body with my brain is much more than just a desire. The alternative was either an endless parade of empty liquor bottles, or a single empty shell casing. Thus, my only ādesireā was simply to continue to live.
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