There is nothing so traumatizing as being assaulted by a psychopath. They look human, they can act human, but they are not one of the community of humans. They are emotionally vacant. They care nothing at all for anyone other than themselves. This is the terrifying reality. They should never be granted power. They do enough damage as it is. They are what the ancients referred to as “evil”.
Gee. Why did she wait so long to go public?
Gee. It happened so long ago she should be over it.
Gee. Why didn’t she go to the FBI?
This poor woman. Her remarks should be played to every Republican in DC.
Was Donnie a classmate?
I haven’t had the courage to watch Dr. Ford’s testimony today, but I did read her wriiten statement yesterday. It has brought back the horrendous nightmare of being assaulted by a close relative when I was 19. You never forget it and there are sights and smells of that horror that I can never erase from memory. There is also a part of me that continues to blame and second guess myself for that horror. Any human being who thinks it is not permanently traumatizing has to be sub-human. My assault happened more than 30 years ago. I am deeply thankful to Dr. Ford for her courage.
Not if it happened in Valley Park MO. Tres working class like forever.
I was raped at 17, I’ve still never told anyone all the details. It informed my sense of self, my sense of my place in the world, my future relationships of all kinds but especially sexual.
I knew I wasn’t alone but I thought I was a part of a select club. A club of broken damaged people that had some initial defect that made me a target and I blamed myself for it, as if at that age I was in control.
This is painful. I didn’t realize it’d be so intense to watch. As soon as Blasey Ford started speaking tears streamed down my face. I listened while I walked my dog and ran an errand. I didn’t care that my eyes were welling with tears or that my face was wet with them. I felt this was public, shared and I’d be daymed if I was going to suppress any feeling or hide my pain by staying huddled in my home.
But I also feel liberated and thankful. Thankful to Blasey Ford and every woman (& man) sharing their pain and supporting each other. I know I’m not alone now in a different way. I feel grief for our culture, our society that has allowed this to happen. But I also feel like we have taken the first step towards healing and charting a different course.
We will know what to name it if victimized. Abusers will have no cover, they’ve been told and we’ll speak. Young people will be taught that they do not have a right to violate the bodies of others’. Those violated will not have to experience the shame that was never ours…
And… demonizing strong women who speak out won’t work anymore …
Take good care of yourselves and others. And thank you, @varroh, for sharing. I’m sorry that happened. It was so wrong.
And thank YOU.
Yes, so many of us have been raped and/or sexually assaulted/attempted rape and/or harassed – some of us all of the above. I am convinced that it is a deliberate strategy to keep women down, subjugated. Hence the blame-the-victimology. Women are regarded as “uppity” if they get too powerful or elicit too much attention. Psychopathic ideology makes these vile predatory behaviors “necessary” to the furtherance of the goal of psychopathic control over society.
Psychopathy is a defect/aberration afflicting primarily males, so women are seen by psychopaths as inferior beings, unworthy of regard, like insects or livestock. And, since they are also cowards, they pick on the most vulnerable females, small, young, gentle. It is the cruelest phenomenon.
So, no, it was and is never the victim’s fault, as much as other psychopathic males in positions of authority (they love power) might try to make it thus.
Never buy into psychopathic memes.
I don’t know how conscious it is but it’s definitely a force to keep women down. It’s really got nothing to do with sex/pleasure which is what’s so gross about the “boys will be boys”, “they were drunk” line.
Thank you for your kind words. I am sorry you had to go through such trauma and while the grief will never go away, know that your pain and anger are legitimate and you are not alone.
@frantastic and @varroh, thank you so much for sharing.