Good luck with this argument! I thought it would be the overwhelming observation (it is also mine), but we are the enemy now!
My mom was corralled, glared at and ultimately groped by a popular fellow teacher at the high school where they taught. She was in her 50s at the time and had never before faced this workplace abuse. Although it did not go beyond a few feels, grabs and gropes, she still felt powerless and traumatized. Since he was so popular she realized a formal public by-the-books grievance would make her the enemy of a “good guy and family man”. See now? Probably not.