It’s probably impossible to raise kids whose heads are screwed on right when parents travel in the circles they do, people jumping to attention when they appear, and a sense of self entitlement grabs hold early and stays.
Somehow, the Clintons, the Obamas, the Carters, and I daresay even the Nixons managed it.
I would not have taken a teaching job at either of two “elite” private schools in SF - didn’t want to deal with “those” parents or their entitled kids. Only a few are pills, according to my friends who do teach at those schools, but “a few” is too many for me.